Sometimes it’s hard to leave without losing. Of course, the best gap is peaceful, quiet, non -alcoholic, face to face in a well -lit room. Behind a cup of coffee, if relations are a week without a year; In the silence of the apartment, if you have long been together. A person who is indifferent to you is not difficult to quit.
If a person treats you poorly, it is necessary to run away from him faster than from a shock. But how honestly to admit his intention to someone pretty, who is happy with you, and the only trouble is that feelings ceased to be mutual? You probably have to give up. I don’t agit. But sometimes the most human is not to tell the whole truth. Therefore, this is the list of what should not be done when leaving the woman is almost honest.
Do not flatter
I admit, I had to look into the man’s eyes and say: “I never experienced such strong feelings, and it scares me to death” – Tryndets as effectively, but only for a while. Actually, this is a variant of the strategy “Loner in a leather jacket that is afraid to love”, but it is not very suitable for a break. Well, if only you really do not jump into a three -hundredth convertible and do not disappear beyond the horizon, crushing your own smartphone tire. I’m saying that “I want to get rid of you forever, but it’s not against the end to have sex,” but he hears: “It’s time to stock up on pregnant women!»This is the wrong lies of how it is.
Do not be cruel
You should not lie on the forehead, but we are still undergrowth to the upcoming utopia, in which everyone plays shells and tell each other childishly true words. If she does not start you, if in bed with her is bored, if you are drawn to the gun, when she says “calls”, she should not know about it. All this can be diluted to a state of non -offensive common words. It is much better to say that “our paths have dispersed” than “I have the impression that I am a member of a mummy”. This is partly true: your path is to enjoy sex, and it is to lie without moving your eyes closed, like on the first wedding night in Victorian England. If the whole truth is too unsightly, the half -truth can be sweetened by another half -truth.
Do not do overcome
Want to commit a noble deed? Go on a dirty beach. Find the otter smeared with oil. Gently wash it with shampoo, remove the plastic ring from the beer can of the legs, release it into the will of the early spring morning and look at it until it hides in the dewy haze. Do not do this with women. We are not treatment facilities. (Well, that is, I am, but this is a rarity.Do not lie that you let us go to. This is an extremely unsuccessful invention: you do not consider us awesome. They don’t leave the awesome! That is: “You will still meet a person who will love you the way you deserve it” and “You are too good to spend time on such a freak like me” – with this bullshit, please, not for us.
Do not leave ahead of time
Once I thought that the best preparation for an inevitable break was to behave as if I were no longer connected. Not that to directly change (Nuda, sometimes change), but make plans for the weekend without looking back at a partner and somehow just slowly melt. This is a cowardly way, and the only thing he can cause is hatred. This is a multiplication of deception. General friends will consider you a prisoner, and the judge certainly will not be on your side when the time comes to lead the saw out with a joint and, most likely, overwhelming work of good.
Do not say beautifully
For some reason, some love to do-oh-oh-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-oh “. With repeated many hours of conversations and inevitable Male for 25 thousand signs. BRIEFLY SPEAKING! Too much sincerity is a complete nightmare. No need to breed an epic poem about why nothing came out and at what point everything went wrong. No psychoanalysis is under the curtain. A doctor is needed when we fight hysterical convulsions. When we burn with cigarettes the eyes of your portraits – enough and on time the filed lighter. And if you compose a letter, and in it you will quote anything – the “second coming” or, God forbid, Bob Dylan – you are provided with an honorable place in the pantheon of monstrous former. I am not strong in jurisprudence, but I am sure: for a farewell letter can be safely awarded with a dozen strict regime or sentenced to chemical castration.
Do not make snot
This may seem like an unexpected advice, but at some point I must say “enough”. The gap is a heavy, and even the most sweet and balanced woman can turn into a wicked beast that was trying to take her husband from Beyonca in the film “Obsession”. Remember: the rocket will not fly into space until it rejects all the worked steps. (Use this metaphor, giving.) If you said goodbye to her kindly, but she still freaks out and does not lag behind-softly, but decisively say that the conversation has ceased to be productive. At some point, kindness turns into a depressed feeling of guilt.
Maybe it’s not good to teach insincerity, even in the interests of your loved one. Anyone who will be easier without you will sooner or later reconcile with bitter truth. But if she is really happy with you, she will not become easier for her from understanding why you were loving loving her. Honestly, I doubt that there is a “humane” way to part with someone who loves you very much-except to hold it, old and sick, by the hand after the years of a happy marriage has been threw deep, complex, complex, complex, complex an indelible feeling, and then wait for the appropriate time after her death before going to the women.