The publication has always been associated with something unusual, idle and bright. Oh, these alluring lights, exotic treats, incredible cocktails and, of course, the very environment. Nice music, somewhere laughter, somewhere-a lively conversation. The aromas of expensive spirits mixed in the air, and enchanting smiles on their faces.
It would seem that it could be better. But you are not so joyful. You are sincerely perplexed, asking yourself the question of what are you doing here? Alas, not everyone is a super girl from the Ethan Hunt team, who, in one of the best examples of foreign thrillers of the “Mission Impossible” series, seduces Sheikh who turned up by the arm in the secular ra coure for a minute. And most often, unfortunately, in a large unknown society, you just want to fall underground from awkwardness … or dissolve in the air. If only to leave this place as soon as possible, these people, this music and smiles. What prevents you from doing this, right now? Call a taxi and return to the warmth of your favorite apartment? But no. You recall your “girlfriend” who pulled you into this place, sagging about half an hour on a telephone wire with stories about how it will be funny at this presentation, how glorious here you can relax and liberate. “I should tell her a couple of affectionate …” – you think. And the hope for the fast ending of this event has not yet cooled down in you.
Perhaps the above slightly exaggerates the real state, but, nevertheless, not so far from the truth. It so happens that people who in a small company from several friends feel “fish in water” and simply “die” with an unfamiliar environment. And to get with one of these strangers the conversation is equated by them with all 12 feats of Hercules.
What to hide, such people are the majority. You can talk for a long time about their character, temperament, education, etc. D. But their whole characteristic in one phrase is a fear of communication. How to get rid of this fear? And is it possible? Of course, this is possible and, moreover, it is extremely necessary. The famous author of the “little prince” and other literary masterpieces of St. Exupery once said the great phrase: “The only real luxury in life is the luxury of human communication”. But, for nothing, not all the inhabitants of the Blue Planet endured freely with strangers to communicate freely with strangers. This is not a reason to give up, because everyone has a communication skill, without exception. And if it is intensively developed, then you can surpass any talent. If you are not one of those lucky people who are incredibly sociable from God, but tolerate constant torture and feel humiliated in an attempt to find the necessary words – you do not want to, then get ready to work on yourself. Even the most shyness can master the simple skills of a relaxed conversation and turn into part of secular society. And this is another source of entertainment, pleasure and, of course, useful ties.
A few simple techniques, how to tie a relaxed conversation at a social event:
If you, for example, are in a picture gallery, then it will be easiest to approach people who are already considering any work of art and ask a question about the picture. A good option would also be the first to comment on the object of universal attention.
If you are on a buffet, then you can get to know and start a conversation even easier, you just need to approach the table with treats and ask someone to give you a napkin or something else. Then, you just just ask a question about whether your visual visa has an event and whether it was here before.
In a situation where everyone simply moves around the hall with glasses and united in groups of two or three people in anticipation of a demonstration of a closed show of a new film about love or, on the contrary, a scientific report, the easiest way to go to the organizer of the event and ask a couple of neutral questions about schedule or something like. Most often, those interested in those who are no longer able to start a conversation are definitely suitable for you, briefly explaining to them what you asked the administrator.
A good way to find like-minded people will join a group that discusses any issue. If you insert a couple of your remarks during the first three minutes during the conversation, then consider that you are already a member of this mini -team.
In conclusion, we summarize that the main thing is to just start thinking in this direction and ideas themselves will come to you. And having realized the first, you will overcome your inner barrier and then the secular techniques that you used to associate with terrible and terrible films about vampires will become a welcome event for you and you will begin to enjoy communication and parties in general!