When you love, you forgive a person all the shortcomings. More precisely, you do not notice them, you consider it cute features. Why is it so difficult to come to terms with your own weaknesses? After all, they heard a hundred times: you need to accept yourself as you are, with a full set of pros and cons ..
It seems to be clear: each of us is a person, the only and unique. But the knowledge of this wonderful fact for some reason does not bring happiness. And why, one wonders, such uniqueness? Better like everyone else. Or rather, like those few beams of fate, whose life is like a fairy tale.
They are successful, beautiful, charming and purposeful – in a word, almost perfect. Therefore, they are happy, right? So, if you want to take a less – less decent place in the sun, take an example from them.
Get rid of shortcomings, extra centimeters and kilograms, work on yourself, grow, improve. And then one day, if you are lucky ..
Just not lucky. A lot of time and effort is spent on fighting himself – but now there. And to be honest, it only gets worse: not only is it unable to approach the goal, you’re making a lot of complexes in addition.
Still: try, step on the throat of your own song – and nothing! What is the conclusion? You are a loser. Others can, and you, despite all efforts, are not. So sit on the sidelines and envy silently ..
The saddest thing is that all this happens all the time: we are fighting with ghosts, instead of enjoying life. We do not know how to use the strengths – because for too long, painfully and more often, we are trying to obscure the shortcomings to no avail.
And we do not even allow the thought that perhaps these qualities are not at all negative, that they were made by ideology, fashion, someone else’s opinion.
Meanwhile, it is often precisely in imaginary weaknesses that the force lies. But in order to change the minus to the plus, you need to actually accept and love yourself – with all the skeletons in the closet, with all the giblets. In doubt? Then try to look at your “shortcomings” on the other hand. So, what have you been fighting unsuccessfully in recent years?
Well, now, literally a few words about self -love. Back at school, we read about reasonable egoism, in popular books on psychology in all ways it is painted how important it is to be the center of the universe for itself, how naturally, it is correct and useful. But if everyone around is egoists, why are you reproaching you in this?
One of two. Or deep down, you still think love for yourself as shameful (you need to live for the homeland, for the family, for the prosperity of the company, in the end!), and people use it. Or vice versa – go to the goal of the heads, absolutely ignored with others.
Both – extremes – extremes. Those who have absorbed the idea of self -sacrifice with mother’s milk, it is especially difficult. You will not become happy until you understand: your own interests are above all – this is the law of life, no matter how you try to prove the opposite.
If you do not feel the need to serve people selflessly, if self -denial does not bring true joy (and ensures only the consciousness of the fulfillment of the fulfillment of the dosage with annoyance), which means that you are not such an exception. So finally become yourself!
Well, it is useful for “egoists in square” to keep in mind: sooner or later everyone is convinced that one in the field is not a warrior. Tiranov ultimately overthrow.
The main thing is to know: there are no bad people. It’s just that someone has the character traits that are here and now erected to the pedestal- such lucky ones are of course easier. Well, everyone else needs to show a little creativity to turn the shortcomings into dignity. Try it and you will succeed!