In this article you will see a private example of the use of psychological technique “Success Diary”.
Records are made in the form of a diary and in the first person, on behalf of Tatyana, a client of a psychologist. Despite this artistic technique, the methodology for restoring personal relationships and the revival of feelings is described in detail here.
How to become an oasis
Sunday: Success Diary
Today is Sunday. It was today that I decided to start a new life not with the correction of Tolik (my husband), but from myself.
Somewhere I read about the fact that a man can be compared with a rider in the desert, and a woman with an oasis. The man’s task is to always move forward, tirelessly, despite the obstacles. And women – bloom and fragrant, that is, create a flowering atmosphere around themselves.
I thought that herself, as if courageous Bedouin, plowed at work and part -time jobs. And still nothing was getting better. Money flowed like water through the sand. Fatigue accumulated. I stopped feeling anything for my husband as a man. Anything other than irritation ..
I decided to record thoughts that inspire me into a special beautiful notebook, which I called the “Diary of Success”. She is in a beautiful green cover. I don’t know why, but it is the green color that causes me a feeling of happiness.
And perhaps the smell of jasmine is associated with me with something beautiful and desired. I also don’t remember why jasmine. But I bought essential oil and every morning, when I will record in a “magic” notebook, it will smell like jasmine in the room, that is, for me – happiness.
What else did I write in a notebook today? All I am grateful to life today. At first it was difficult to squeeze out thoughts. And then it turned out that all the gifts of fate did not even fit on one page.
Here I will record all the successful and just pleasant incidents that happened to me over the past day.
Monday
I, in general, want to become a little girl again, lie down in the crib and cry. And my parents would bring me hot tea with jam and new toys … But I’m not a girl, I am an adult woman. That is, my life is in my hands. And I know that tears and sad thoughts will not help me become the very oasis into which I intend to reincarnate.
A family relationship psychologist, to which I go to consult, said that physiology of a woman is such that even a little stress, accompanied by tears and sadness, leaves traces in the body. To recover after that, you need three days. Three!
I imagined how I allow me to “follow” the dirty boots with completely strangers with whom I can’t live and do not baptize children. And at the same time I pretend that I am very pleased, I smile. And Tolik and the children get my irritated and tired face. So the oasis is still far away.
In the “Success Diary” I recorded today’s thoughts, as well as my little successes. Today I listened much less to other people’s conversations and came home much more fresh and joyful. My relatives decided that they gave me a prize … my husband was so surprised at my good mood that he himself prepared a habit of dinner. For me, the most romantic in the world. Although, it seems nothing special ..
Tuesday
The change of change does not progress so easily, but in the morning I made a record in my diary. To the smell of jasmine, I added Valery Leontyev’s favorite song “Deltaplan”. The psychologist advised to use all the senses when filling out a magic notebook, and hearing also.
At work I wanted to fight and look, find and not give up. But the picture on the desktop of a computer with an oasis eloquently reminded that women had their secrets.
I persistently remind myself that I just need to remember everything that I like and everything I need will come by itself.
I do not want to be a man in a skirt anymore, which everyone can provoke, like a bull with a red rag.
My task is to restore relations with my husband and family.
Wednesday
Oh, how hard it is to protect my fragile oasis. Today in the early morning they called from work, there, as always, something “collapsed”.
I used to run a stamp, but now no … I started again a day with a “success diary”. And the sky did not fall to the earth: it turned out that the danger was exaggerated as always.
You can congratulate me. I am leaving the role of a puppet that everyone can pull by the thread ..
Gloomy thoughts sometimes come to the head of habit. At that moment I just stop them. I can imagine how at the entrance to my head (through the ears) there are two most reliable securities (approximately such as in my favorite film “Bodyguard”), and no one misses anyone.
I have not done anything yet to restore the relationship with my family, and my husband has already offered to go to the theater. Although he hates him! God, we have not been there for 10 years. But I didn’t even saw it, I just bought such a magic dress yesterday. And innocently so, in a way, I complained that there is nowhere to go in it ..
Thursday
Today I remembered that I love white roses terribly. At that moment I was already at work, but it didn’t stop me. I went and bought it! They looked at me like a crazy.
And in the evening a very profitable client came to us and immediately went to me (although I am sitting at the far end of the office). Says: “You are so surprisingly joyful, and it smells so well with flowers, as if not the end of a working day.”.
I didn’t want money anymore, they themselves pulled me!!! I will postpone a family vacation. Hooray!
Friday
I slept and did not have time to fill the magic notebook in the morning. But did not scold herself. Because I will never do it again.
I used to make a mistake, and then spent ten times more time to criticize myself. And never could get out of the web of self -criticism.
But today not, I didn’t scold myself. Filled a diary for lunch, at work! And my main success is that I don’t scold myself anymore!!!
In the evening I noticed that having ceased to scold myself, I got sick of scolding my husband and children. Why immerse a family in a guilt? I am an oasis. When they feel the need for my flowering garden, they will have where to relax and consult.
Tolika, by the way, really wanted to scold. I came very much … But restrained. And – what is surprising – he did not run the whole evening for the addition. Although earlier if it starts, then until the morning he will give anyone peace.
Saturday
This happened today … morning sex. Notice, very high quality. And Tolik brought me morning coffee. Stunned! Thanks, thanks, thanks, my magical diary!!!
Of course, I’m not an oasis yet, but only study ..
In conclusion
These records were made by me from the words of my client Tatyana, who successfully tried on herself my author’s methodology “Success Diary” to establish relations with her husband.
The bottom line is that we attract into our lives what we focus on. Moreover, a synergistic effect occurs. Two plus two are no longer four, but ten, a hundred or even a thousand.
I wish you success!