Since childhood, we have been taught that you can love others, but not yourself, that loving ourselves is not only selfishness, but even self -centeredism. Both the egoist and the egocentric is worse nowhere. And, meanwhile, the Bible says: “Love your neighbor as yourself”, which it suggests – you must first love yourself.
And what to do in reality?
You are sure-a person who does not love himself can never love someone else, will never understand another, will never be able to forgive anyone.
Parents and teachers inspired us that we must forget about themselves that we need to live not for yourself, but for the sake of the country, for the sake of some idea, for the sake of their people. What needs to be sacrificed for the sake of the state. That only your homeland can be loved before self -denial.
So, millions of people lived with a disobedience attitude towards themselves and lived.
Adults constantly made us comments, almost rude. The word “impossible” was a favorite word at school and at home. And everyone closed their mouths. Asking unnecessary questions was simply, impossible.
There was not only freedom of deed and word, there was no freedom of thought. The freethinks did not tolerate.
And to believe was allowed only to the party and the government.
About God, in general, it was forbidden to talk.
So how to love yourself?
From childhood, almost all were programmed for low self -esteem. Who am I? Nobody! And call me in any way? What can I? Nothing!
People were blocked by phrases, like this: “I’m not good for anything”! Such blocks do not allow a person to develop.
I will teach you to get rid of such programs!
Get rid of such blocking sentences that contain words and particles: “No, but not”!
People with low self -esteem cannot forgive themselves their own perfection – what are far from ideals and suffer all their lives. They still feel their guilt for something and before someone.
This is where love for yourself begins.
You must remember that every person is unique. We must try to maintain your individuality. Such as you, no longer in the universe!
You are the only and unique!
Accept yourself as you are.
Find your own style in everything (in clothes, including).
Take care of your favorite things (maybe you like to draw with oil paints or weave lace).
Allow yourself to relax and sleep when you want.
Buy yourself some trinket or that thing that you have dreamed about so long.
Buy yourself those costumes and those outfits that you like, and not people around you.
Eat what you want (within reasonable limits) – pamper yourself with a delicious chocolate with nuts or a sandwich with red caviar.
Make yourself the makeup that you are in your heart, not your neighbor.
Wear the shoes and the color that you like.
In general, start living! Start living for yourself to your beloved! Start living and rejoice at yourself and everything that you have not allowed yourself for so long. Live!
Take the initiative to your kind and loving hands! And praise and praise yourself! Love yourself, my dear!