You need to start dancing, as they say, from the stove, so I want to start my first article with memories of our childhood. I am grateful to my parents for how they raised me. From childhood, they considered me a personality and a full -fledged member of the family, listened, proved, convinced – but they never offended, did not humiliate, always gave the right to choose and said that it was I who were responsible for my actions and their consequences. Thanks to this, I grew up an independent person. I know that in life you can achieve a lot, and everything is on the shoulder, the main thing is my desire. However, some fears still had to remove. At the end of the article I will tell you how to deal with them.
Sit down and think about what prevents you from being happy? Of course, only your low self -esteem, possibly laid down in childhood.
What were your parents when you were small, how they raised you, and how did it affect your future life?
I hope that you had a happy childhood, and all this information will only remind you that your parents need to call and say that you love them.
I myself am the mother of two boys and very often think about whether I always act with them. In a fit of anger or irritation, sometimes there is a temptation to scold a child, but it is at such moments that it is especially important to restrain! It is necessary to calm down and in no case do not break into the child; It must be explained what he did not correctly, but not to switch to a person.
Adults with neuroses or mental problems most likely received little love in childhood, but a lot of disapproval. Resentment against parents can sit in my head and unconsciously stay in the subconscious. A significant role is played by the parenting attitudes that cling to their own desires, which cling and keep for a very long time, or even all their lives.
On the other hand, expressing a low self -esteem of formulation of the type "I’m weak", "I’m ugly", "I’m not very smart", "I have no talents" correspond to confirmation of their own failure. Talking about themselves about themselves are indecisive, dependent. Looking for excuses to their own failures, they see exclusively negative qualities in others.
But almost any person can cope with low self -esteem! You just need to try very hard. I will help you deal with it.
Let’s do some simple things:
Ask yourself the question of what you are most afraid of?
For example:
– change your life;
– get acquainted with a stranger;
– change the work, although it does not like it;
– make a speech to the audience;
– Start a new business.
Find yourself a lesson bringing joy, success, money, health.
I was very helped by work in a team where every person is given a chance to feel that he can, he can do everything and he will succeed!