It seems to me that people are married to always be together, as they say, a couple do not spill water. But psychologists and family specialists argue that the constant, continuous stay of people in the same room often leads to stress, and as a result, to conflicts between these people (remember all these reality of the show, where people had to be in a closed space for a long time, in home or on the island and how quickly almost all of them begin to conflict among themselves).
In this sense, couples are in a special position, which were lucky (or, conversely, was not lucky) work together.
Engage in common affairs, help each other, have common hobbies and the same professions is good, but for married couples it represents a certain problem and often turns into a collapse of relations.
The lack of personal space and the constant “hanging around each other around the neck” leads to the fact that sooner or later one of the spouses begins to strive to spend time outside the house as often as possible, which can easily lead to connections on the side.
Married couples may be at the same work for various reasons. For example, due to a official novel that has become a serious relationship, or they have a common business, or one of the spouses earns money, and the second helps him, doing his affairs and helping him to move along his career ladder (this is often found among the stars of the show -Business, football players, etc. e).
Being constantly together, it is easier for her husband and wife to plan their family affairs: they go to work and home, buy products in the store, conduct joint farming, and raise children.
Joint work gives many opportunities that are deprived of a couple involved in different jobs. Spouses can communicate on those who understand them, they have common interests, as well as familiar and business partners. These moments always bring and strengthen the family, because even when passion ends, her husband and wife always have something to talk about.
But there is also the reverse side of the medal in this: if a man and a woman work together, they will not have the so -called moment of reincarnation of an employee into a family man.
The situation is even more complicated if the family role does not coincide with the position at the workplace. For example, if a woman refuel at home at home, and in the office she obeys her husband, a psychological confusion is created, from which it is sometimes difficult to get out.
In addition, the spouses are seen almost continuously, watching each other around the clock and without having time to miss each other. In such a situation, people are very tired, they have a desire to change the situation, the desire of new faces and other communication.
If the spouses work together, the important family function ceases to be implemented, which we will call psychotherapeutic. It consists in the support and sympathy of loving people.
Returning home, spouses cannot share their problems at work with each other, get support or good advice, approval or constructive criticism, because all these issues have already been discussed many times during the worker for, and the problems at work are often common to the couple.
If you work with people, you often have to smile, joke, laugh at other people’s jokes, and sometimes even flirt. And your partner can not always perceive this correctly, because jealousy is a feeling inherent in almost everyone.
The submission to the work of one of the spouses to another is also negatively affected by family relations. The roles of the boss and subordinate at work strongly affect the distribution of roles in the family. Anyone who is lower in rank, counts on the entertaining from the spouse, and if he does not receive them, he is offended.
If the chef is too loyal to his spouse, there will be indignation of the team. Therefore, often the boss-Supro is especially meticulously refers precisely to his wife (or vice versa), which causes her insults (after all, the spouse counts on the contrary, on a warm and sympathetic attitude).
It is best if the spouses are on one step of career growth: there is nothing wrong with healthy rivalry, although psychologically tense to compete with your loved one, from whom you expect support, care and love.
If you work with a “favorite soul mate” – try to cross less and argue in working matters. If you have to work on a joint project, try to give in to each other, look for outputs and compromises.
And now the most difficult. At home, you should learn to completely turn off the brains from work. Do not discuss the working aspects of lying in bed or at a family dinner. Try to spend free from the evening and the weekend separately from each other or radically change the situation and the circle of communication. To relax from each other, it is important to have your own personal interests, hobbies and friends.
But the vacation should be planned together: at this time, the spouses must forget about work and remember that they are a family.
At first of family life, the absolute merger in a single whole likes the spouses, but soon it bothers and the partners want freedom and personal space.
In addition, the constant presence of a lover nearby greatly limits the communication of a partner with others, especially if the people around the opposite sex.
If, in non-working time, the husband will go fishing with friends, and his wife to go to fitness or any courses, this will significantly enrich their communication, and also give many new and interesting topics for conversations.