You always set goals, even if you do not set them. Here is such a paradox. Immediately recall a joke about the paradox:
The World Congress of the Pofigists. The journalist takes the interview at the most important nonsense.
– Tell me, you really don’t care?
– Certainly.
– And if you are deprived of all money, you will also care?
– No, I don’t care the money.
– How so? You said that you do not care? The paradox is obtained.
– But for the paradox I do not care.
With the goals of about the same thing. Any of your behavior has a goal, something that you do not care important for you. Even if a person is in deep depression and says that he does not need anything from life. This is wrong. Subconsciously, he can strive to get attention from loved ones, or wants to relax, or checks the love and patience of another person.
If your goals are not conscious, this does not mean that they are not. This only means that you do not control their implementation. And when they are achieved, you are surprised. Surpra-a-a-hez! Okay, at least pleasant. But since you do not control the orientation of your thoughts, and the thoughts of an ordinary average person are full of subconscious fears, fears, conflicting intentions, the result leaves much to be desired.
I recently read the blog of a friend where he writes that he really wanted his relationship with other people to be sincere and conscious. And at some point it began to be very surprised why with him and in his immediate environment, there were so many conflicts, clarification of relations, and autopsy of unpleasant truth. And only then did he realize that he ordered this to himself by requesting “sincerity” and “awareness”.
It doesn’t matter if you set yourself goals or not. The mechanism of their implementation has already been launched.
It is better to manage this process and set goals consciously than then be surprised at the result. It is a conscious setting of the goal that we will be engaged in the training of BE $ t Life.
Conflicting intentions
Quite often, goals are not realized or realized not at all as you wanted due to the inconsistency of intention.
For example: a person sets himself a goal, is inwardly mobilizing for its implementation, and then at some point tells himself: “But still, I probably don’t need it” or “Most likely I don’t worthy”, “I will do it something more useful “. A contradictory intention is turned on, which begins to slow down the first goal. If the initial goal for a person was still important, then its non-performance may lead to diseases of the physical body. The connection of the psyche and body has long been proven, and such diseases are called psychosomatic. Or a person simply loses the brightness of life, the emotional background becomes dull, I don’t want anything, the energy level falls. So close and depressed.
At the training we will work out the inconsistency of goals, I call it the “monkey syndrome”. So to direct the energy in one direction, and then there will be no unpleasant surprises. You will consciously set goals and manage their implementation. Set goals = take the first step to the life of your dreams.
How to find out the truth about your goals
Another important point is to know your life priorities for sure. Let’s conduct such an experiment: we will analyze our priorities.
When you have free time, what are you choosing? First, describe the ideal option yourself: your preferences, what would you like.
Now look at what you really do when you have free time. Especially if you complain that you do not have enough of it on … (Development of your business, communication with loved ones, creativity, substitute your option).
This simple experiment shows that you have implicit priorities. It is only important to understand what. If you lie on the couch all day, then this is a priority?
Answer yourself this question.