Let’s talk about significance today. About the very abstract significance that we give to any object or phenomenon. What is it, where it came from and how to get rid of:
According to Wikipedia: “significance-importance, significance of something”. Like this. And nothing more. But this definition does not reveal the entire depth of this concept. In your own words, you can describe the significance as follows: too much, excessive value of a particular object. Simply put, if we “live without something is not a modem” or “we really want something to happen”, then this has a share of us high.
Where did she come from and why is she needed:
Increased significance is observed today. And exclusively people possess it. In the sense that only a person can give something greater or lesser significance. Animals simply obey their instincts and do what they want. With the development of the brain, a person has the ability to think abstractly and endow the objects of the world around him with special properties, which in fact is not. Significance deals with emotions and is formed at a subconscious level. Therefore, it is very difficult to control it. We ourselves are happy not to attach such significance to one or another subject, to clear the mind from thoughts as important, to get rid of unnecessary fears. However, this is not so simple.
Why get rid of the importance?
The fact is that by giving the excessive meaning of something, we move it away from ourselves. I’ll try to explain by example. Suppose you really liked some girl (guy). You want to come up, meet you, but you are constantly tormented by the thoughts “what if it doesn’t work out”, “I will look like an idiot”. You attach excessive meaning to this event, and it seems to you that in the case of a “failure” something terrible will happen. In the end: internally tension, tongue is braided, knees tremble. And in this state you approach the object of your adoration. I think the result of such an acquaintance is obvious. Simply put: significance causes excitement. Hence the opinion that “do not live well” live “.
How to get rid of it?
Significance is inextricably linked with the human psyche, so you have to delve into yourself. However, there are several practical techniques in order, so to speak, to deceive your own mind.
Here are some of them:
Spare option
To convince yourself that in the event of a defeat or not good luck not to come the “end of the world”. It is necessary to think over alternative ways to develop the event and come up with a “retreat plan”. Therefore, students are advised to try to enter several universities at once. This will not only increase the chances of receiving at least one of them, but also reduce the excitement during the exams themselves, which means it will increase the effectiveness.
Switching attention
Just stop thinking about a particular object for you, “throw it out of your head”. The easiest way to do this is, just paying attention to another object. Analogy with athletes: the day before the performance we are not preparing, we are resting. For what? Because it is necessary to free your own head, cleanse consciousness, and most importantly – calm down.
Concentrate on the process, not on the result
Do not think about whether you will succeed well or bad. Try to catch high from the process. As if this is such a game. You are not doing anything serious, but just have fun time. As one famous speaker said: “We do well what we do with pleasure”.
Magic ritual
Try to just convince yourself that you are reducing the level of significance. This method is based on associations. Take off your tension and excitement literally. Imagine your tension about a particular event is dirt that covers your whole body. Reset it in the most comfortable way for you. Thus, you say to the subconscious that you want to get rid of these sensations. Most often it obeys you.
Humor
Try to make fun of your serious attitude to a particular subject. Go to the mirror and accept a very serious facial expression. Now imagine that you are on stage with this expression on the stage or get acquainted with the girl. Imagine how you make this significant action with this expression on you. You will understand that too serious attitude towards something is very funny.
Relax
Try to physically relax your whole body, and most importantly – face. Freeze from all thoughts for at least 5 minutes. You can afford to even take a nap. Thus, you will bring the psyche into a state of balance, and everything in this world will no longer seem so significant.
I hope these tips will help you at the right time get rid of excessive excitement and take the situation philosophically.