Perhaps someone will seem stupid in the age of information technology to write by hand on paper. But try, you yourself will be surprised how much calmer and orderly your life will become.
I started keeping a diary back at school. At first it seemed to me that it was stupid. The first notes are still impossible to read without laughter through tears. My self-censorship at that time was so comprehensive that these notes were written as if in the calculation that someone else’s read them, and therefore edited by me mercilessly. But I continued to write. Not every day, and then, when I felt the need for this, but at a time I could write ten to twenty pages. Observations of others, thoughts about the motives of certain actions, plans and dreams, joy and sorrows ..
Over time, my inner censor has weakened, and I discovered an incomparable pleasure for myself, to speak and write not what they expect to hear from me, but what I think and what I really feel. My world began to play with new colors.
Now, re -reading old notes, I can trace the evolution of my own consciousness and worldview. And this excursion into the past allows us to determine what exactly in my past influenced who I am now.
In addition to psychological discharge, keeping a diary also contributes to the development of attention and concentration necessary in order to fix in memory and then competently state the thought. Understanding that the written cannot be removed by pressing the key, as on a computer, makes you think carefully before writing something.
There is another argument in favor of keeping a diary. Description of the problem that has encountered, reasoning about the causes of its occurrence and possible solutions of the solution allows you to look at what happened in a new way, to notice the details that may have slipped away from attention earlier, and also develop a strategy for behavior in a similar situation.
Try it yourself. I’m sure the result will pleasantly surprise you.
This method is suitable for those who fear that their records will be found and read by those to whom they are not intended.
Imagine that you are talking with a friendly and sincerely interested person in you. This can be an imaginary psychologist, a character of a book, a celebrity, you yourself in childhood – any pretty person who causes confidence.
Tell this person to this person about yourself, your life, about what excites you, and imagine that he answers you. Think that he would advise you, as he explains this or that event or phenomenon.
The main rule: imagining the response of the interlocutor, remember that he is friendly in relation to you, and therefore criticism, condemnation, reproaches are canceled. He may agree or disagree with you, but in any case, he must do it softly and politely. For example: “I think you did wrong. Let’s think about how to fix it, “” I’m sure you can do it. Let’s try?”. Do not forget, the internal interlocutor is, in fact, you yourself. Be kind and more condescending to yourself, and then the answers to the questions that concern you will come easily and in a timely manner.
This method is also good because it allows you to move away from the situation and look at it under a new angle. After all, it is not for nothing that they say that from the side it is more visible, moreover, it is much easier to find a solution to the problem when emotions do not cover consciousness.
This is a very important point. Take a closer look at people whom you consider ideal. You will notice that their attention is attracted by mistakes, flaws, flaws, imperfections, while the positive aspects are noted in passing or completely ignored. Remember the aforementioned situation with “but …”?
The best behavior strategy in a situation where someone is trying to “reset” your achievements-focus on a positive moment. For example: “All friends have children officially employed, and you are on freelance – what kind of work is such?” -” But I do not depend on anyone, I determine with whom, when and on what conditions I work “.
Ideal people generally like to compare their children with someone who succeeded more in some field. “Catch up, overtake and escape forward” – here is their motto. That’s just who needs this race? Certainly not the child himself, whose complexes are multiplying day by day with each “failed” task.
Do not let caustic comments and offensive comparisons influence your self -esteem. In the end, you do not want to live your life as a tool for the implementation of strangers – in this case parental – ambitions?
Remember, you are a unique person, with your advantages and disadvantages. Follow your way and in everything that is happening to you, look for positive points. And even if it seems that they are not, it just seems. Take a closer look – and you will certainly find them.