Respect or fear (or masterpiece and package with bowel movements). With a great degree of probability, we can say that in almost every team there are individuals who create an aura of immunity around themselves, or increased significance and importance. These are usually miserable people who have a very high opinion about themselves or high opinions about their achievements. Perhaps in your environment there will be such comrades. A sort of mental babies with an overstated ego.
There are other significant people. They really, rightfully, can be called people. They are respected for their affairs, and not for banal pomp or exactingness. These are people-open to others, sincere, ready to treat others humanly. Ready to support, teach and help in difficult times, but what is there.. And not only in difficult times.
So – it is so. But what if, for example, such a greedy (to respect himself loved), a person fell into your environment in the role, let’s say your boss, or your spouse or wife?
What if it is not possible to do anything yet, to change the current situation?
There is one original comparison.
I think this situation can be represented by the example of a careful attitude to any subject. But only a careful attitude can be different.
For simplicity of explanation, let’s imagine two situations. The same person in the first case carries a very fragile, perfectly created art of art. Very rare, or even a unique, expensive thing! .. Masterpiece!
Naturally in such a situation, this person will carefully hold this subject of art. Will carefully take it, carefully transfer it, and very smoothly put it in place. Well, this is understandable.. All the same – a masterpiece.
In the second situation, the same person is very careful about another subject. He also carefully raises it, carries and puts a place on the placed item for this item. Only this subject is no longer a masterpiece, but a very dilapidated and flimsy bag with liquid bowel movements and sewage. So he is afraid, this package randomly break through.. Imagine how to pour strongly and with what consequences.
I think the examples are clear. As we see a careful attitude – a careful attitude. The process of frugality is the same. And the motivation of these processes is diametrically opposite.
Therefore, for those who find it difficult to respect an arrogant villain (whether at work, in a different team, or in the family), it is worth presenting the same flimsy package with bowel movements and decide for themselves not to respect, then at least fear, as they say , did not break in your direction. This awareness gives a completely tangible power, for some time to tolerate a villain, before the resolution of the situation.
Well, to those comrades who crave respect and honor, it would be good to think about what they really want? That they would really be respected, or after all that they were just afraid? They cherished and cherished as a jewel and a masterpiece, or careful as with the same notorious package with liquid and smelly bowel movements.
As they say, sobering up the thought for those who are ready to use their mind for their intended purpose.
Well, I wish you to find an ungulated vision of such situations, and to receive additional forces to change them.