Do not expect gratitude from others and then your world will change for the better, you will be happy.
The objective criterion of the highest degree of the moral state of a person can serve as his skill and the ability to be grateful to life, country, parents, family, friends. Gratitude is impossible to wait for the attention of people who have not received the proper upbringing.
In the universal manifestation of human essence, its own nature is visible, the characteristics of it are more ungrateful than thanking. And it is little likely that it will change throughout your life. Simply put, it will always be what it has always been, therefore, more practical, more profitable and reasonable not to try to change it, but to accept it in its original form. Grateful people meet so rarely, so their very existence is rather an exception to the rules than the rule itself. The world is mainly filled with people concentrated exclusively on their own person, extremely selfish and often ungrateful, so there is no need to be surprised and even more to worry about this, because we will never see another world.
Many times a day, faced with unprincipled ingratitude, it would be completely unreasonable to grumble and worry about this every time the expected does not come true. It makes no sense to blame human nature, rather you need to blame yourself for ignorance of it to the extent as not to bother yourself with experiences by your gratitude. It’s better to let it be a pleasant surprise when you get it than a woeful disappointment when this does not happen. Now you know that people tend to be ungrateful and this, oddly enough, is naturally inventing here, there is no need to build illusions that ultimately lead to disappointments and many passing griefs. Do not prepare for them, it is better to tune in to avoid them.
But the expectation of gratitude is not all the misfortune, of those that can advent with you, it often happens when the usual expectation develops into its demand. Gratitude is a wayward and capricious thing, she does not tolerate that she was expected, demanded, she comes unexpectedly and accidentally, almost always when she is not expected. Therefore, demanding gratitude, you risk it very much not to get it and thereby cause irreparable harm not only to your health, but also to no less harm the health of your others receives harm.
Thousands of people live in the world, suffering from the lack of gratitude and attention from others, especially relatives who have invested all their forces in good and want to be loved, but unfortunately in this world, in order to earn love, you need to stop waiting, demanding, demanding it, but just do good, not expecting reciprocity. The one who feels the joy of good deeds to others is perfect and is ashamed to take them in his direction. Highly moral personalities do good deeds, without caring for the reverse return, they simply do, by nature with a lesser degree of morality, on the contrary, they live due to the kindness of their environment. Therefore, if you want to find happiness and feel the joy of life, just stop thinking about gratitude or its absence, and live at the expense of the joy that you receive for your good deeds.
Although the ingratitude is natural like weeds on a cultural field, she can not indulge and follow. Growth gratitude on the weeding field, by your own example, showing gratitude to other people, and sprout it in your children, raising this feeling in them from the very first days of their life and then they will not be obliged, but sincerely grateful to you.
So, instead of waiting for gratitude and worrying about her absence, gaining happiness giving good to others, raise a feeling of gratitude in your children from being grateful.