In the life of every young bride, the moment comes when it is necessary to inform parents about their decision to get married. For her mother, this is a great news – because from the very birth of her daughter she dreamed about this moment.
But with the fathers the situation is more complicated. Hearing “Dad, I get married”, few of them will be ready to immediately give their “little daughter” into the hands of an unknown man who had not participated in her education. Therefore, each father must first prepare for this event.
Preparatory measures
In order for the news of the upcoming marriage to not become a complete surprise for your father, it is advisable to report this no earlier than he will get used to the thought that a new man had appeared in your life. After the appearance of one, after some time, when you consider that your relationship is quite serious, you need to arrange a confrontation for him and your parents.
If your father is a man of strict moral principles, in general, with classical Soviet education, then “dad, I can marry” right in the forehead – this can be fraught with dangerous consequences for the health of both your boyfriend and father. Therefore, it is advisable to show some caution and pretend to be a “ally”.
First you get acquainted with a young man your mother. Make sure that he makes the best impression – supply a bouquet of his beloved mom’s flowers and a cake (also to match her tastes). Tell me what she does in life, what is interested in what kind of hobby she has. In general, everything that will help when meeting an interesting conversation for a cup of tea.
Special operation “Acquaintance of my two men”
After my mother goes to your side, you can ask her to prepare her father for a similar meeting. Let it hint that you have an admirer, about how good, wonderful, attentive, what serious intentions and so on have it.
Her main task will be to configure him to the idea of the upcoming meeting, it is advisable to furnish everything so that he himself wants it. I think that every mother has a sufficient number of female things that will help to do this. The article “Women’s Energy” will help in this.
As well as to get acquainted with the mother, properly prepare your boyfriend before meeting with your father. He should try even more to impress a young man who can be entrusted with the most valuable thing that every father has – his daughter’s hand and heart.
After the first joint dinner, it will be worthless to leave them, as if by chance, together with some male occupation, during which they will be able to talk “heart to heart”. For example – watch a football match, drinking a conversation with a couple of jars of beer. During this conversation, the father should have the right opinion about your possible groom.
If you have instructed your chosen one well, you talked about my father’s hobbies, about his outlook on life, that is, indicated “what buttons you need to press” – he should do everything!
Dad, I am married to a good guy!
After the successful end of the stage of acquaintance, it is advisable to arrange a few more similar meetings so that the father gets used to the thought that you now have a lover and you have everything seriously. During this time, they must have time to make friends.
When you decide that time has already arrived, first inform your mother of the intention to get married. During one of the joint “almost family” dinners you can take a glass of wine in your hand and solemnly declare: “Dad, I get married!”. If the “agent in the rear” (mother) will correctly “process the goal” before that, then this statement should not plunge your father into a shock state.
The most successful outcome of this event will be sincere joy in the eyes of the parents, their congratulations on the upcoming wedding and conversations about the organization of the celebration.
What to do if the father is against?
There are situations when, despite the carefully thought out and prepared stages of acquaintance, the news “Dad, I get married!”Still, it is accepted extremely negatively (” only through my corpse!”). Either all of the above recommendations were not fully fulfilled, or the father of the original was prepared that you simply do not have worthy, that all modern guys belong to the spoiled generation, etc. D. There can be quite a lot of reasons in principle.
But the fact remains – you get married! And there are only a few options for your behavior in this situation:
Get married secretly without the approval of parents (at least one) and spoil relations with them forever.
Make your father understand that you made your choice. Explain that the wedding will happen in any case and nothing depends on his opinion. And then it remains only to hope for his prudence. If he really values you, then he will make the right decision – he will reconcile and respect your choice.
The second option is of course preferable – he will give your children loving and caring grandfather and grandmother, without whose help to educate them will be much more difficult.
I hope my advice will help you to correctly tell your father the news “Dad, I’m getting married!”And I propose to write about the results obtained in the comments to this article.
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