Sincerity has many faces: someone covers obscenities, someone leads quiet conversations “cleanly”, someone aloud discusses how and where he saw the interlocutor and what he would have done to him, and someone jokes sharp jokes, in which jokes at best half.
Finding out relationships business is not clean, but very dirty. It is necessary to take off the “panties” and from the interlocutor; turn out the bins of the soul, where it is not always happy to look. But if you quarrel, why to hide? It’s time to turn everything outside, as after shaking on the bus. So that the whole world would see what was for lunch. This is how I see a clarification of relations. Well, who is interested in what I ate for lunch? But I also drank the soup from above. It will become disgusting to the interlocutor? Suddenly still shows his lunch? I don’t like to look at this. And who loves?
But there is also a useful side of the conversation “heart to heart”. The one that colleagues and subordinates often practice at work, and which flickers between friends. From the outside it may look like aggression. Or mass insanity, or as hatred or disrespect for neighboring. Well, for example, whether you have to participate in the correspondence of colleagues who are joking, tear their heads off the director and nullify it with the door? Or whether to attend the enchanting abuse of friends? Когда кажется, что они скорее враги – такие колкости друг другу отвешивают и не краснеют. But what they do not blush there! Both are laughing like horses in a clean pole. And both are happy! And then they hug, and you can’t imagine brighter smiles on their faces. What is it? And this is not a hidden anger in the form of a stone behind the bosom, it is the prevention of constipation in the brain, it is sincerity.
You can execute the director on paper – you have fantasies and hands on this. Executed – and so easier on the soul! It happens that periodically I want to bother a loved one. There are many reasons. But even just having spoke all these movements, it seems that they happened, and the muscle corset immediately relaxed. And life continues in its mode. You can say out loud, smiling widely and happily, for example: “Ah, you are such a muzzle, you put your claws here, you think you are stabbed, yes? Short hands you have! Little in childhood pulled up!»Of course, there is no logical connection between pull -ups and the length of the hands. But the essence is clear!
It is clear that no one will kick the boss, as if beat his door. Although by chance it is possible, of course. But mentally or verbally – a sweet thing! In detailed details, what music played at the same time, what kind of window, but the main thing is that he will say in response. But he will ask for mercy, of course. At least in our dreams. After all, the boss will not live without us, cogs and shpuntiks. He also knows how important we are. But he is not only in his fantasies over us-he can be pronounced with all. At least this is classic, the worst thing: “Yes, I don’t know what I will do with you all!”
And then? Then everyone works and smiles at each other, because everyone spoke out, everyone understood who is capable of what. Friends later live on and help each other in the same rhythm. Family couples, letting each other in a quiver of arrows, live peacefully and amicably. Friends are still fighting, it happens, sincerely. Family couples, too, like joking, but with such zeal they can put each other in a soft place for Lenka in the fifth grade!”
This is easy to demand from other people: well, you don’t like it – say! And that other racks his head: how?! How to say so as not to offend? Yes, and is it worth talking? After all, the other may not understand. To evaluate the mental abilities of others – only to make stress and problems for yourself. You can start with a pleasant. You have to start with something.
Aggression? Sincerity!
The most difficult thing is sincerity with oneself. But having learned to speak with you to “you” and “viciously” to make fun of, then the same thing is more real to do with others. For example, I have a habit of regularly “kill myself against the wall”, so much so that it is flattened. And then I collect myself on the bones. And what is curious: after each such procedure I feel much more vigorous. And fresh thoughts visit my bright head.