They do not argue about tastes, but when it comes to moving yourself to the realization of your own goals and dreams, you just need to understand what is so beckoning to you in your dream?! For example, a… He wants to be an actress because she likes to “portray”, likes the process of the game, acting party, touring schedule, “boiling” life, but t… I like the dream of the red carpet, prestigious awards and a spectacular photo in a fashion magazine. Both want to be actresses. But they want different things! One needs a comfortable car – to carry the whole family in the summer at sea, in the fall, mushrooms, and what else…?
The recipe for the search for your “carrot”, your goal and your dreams.
All people are different and everyone needs different “carrots”! In order to understand why you need a career/this or that profession/married or more narrowly money/apartment/machine/last iPhone, or so figure/your blog/learn to draw/write songs/play the guitar… UV, everything was mixed like a vinaigrette – where are dreams? Where are the goals? Where are the motivating “carrots”? Money is a goal or “carrot”? And “marry” is a dream or a goal?
Let’s, first, separate the beans from the lentils!
A dream is a certain imaginary image, not quite clear, but emotionally very significant and pleasant for us!
Features: Dream is very pleasant to dream!
The goal is a dream that has gained specific parameters: how much? What quality? In what place? to which time? The goal always has some kind of action plan!
Note: the plan can be difficult or easily feasible, but always requires effort, perseverance. Going to the goal is not always pleasant and strewn with roses…
Motivation – carrots, bonuses, pleasantness and prizes that we will receive along the way to the goal, and of course the largest “carrot” is the achievement of the goal itself, which was formed under a “vivid impression” from a dream!
Note: practically the best motivation is a bright and exciting image of a dream!
In order to “motivate” yourself qualitatively, you need to build a sequential chain of several points:
A dream – in my opinion, should not be a specific thing, but a concern to the “picture”, consisting of that way of life, environment, kind of classes, places and quality of life that would bring you maximum pleasure. Someone likes life in the bosom of nature surrounded by numerous households and pets, as well as pleasant evenings by the fireplace, held after an unhurried game in Loto. Another needs a noisy city, parties, friends, creative flight, comfortable and quickly put in order. The third needs all the “most-most” and he is ready "kill" for this 24 hours a day… Everything is worthy of incarnation if this beckons you.
There are two very “strong things” that help to decide on the dream. Here they are:
First. The ancient sages said “Remember the death…”, For the first time read – was horrified, and then found an explanation and was surprised how true. Once, for us everything ends. And this is a fact. But what do you want to remain when it all ends? Generic nest where all your descendants will gather? Books giving hope? Grateful students? Network of corporate family restaurants? The love of viewers? Pictures charged by optimism and love? New discovery that will change the world? Think about it…
The second. Try to imagine that you “took the jackpot”, received an inheritance from the distant rich (it turns out!) a relative. If in short, you should not worry at all, you can do everything that you can buy for money, you can afford any rest, any things, any education, any project, and t. D. What would you do then, well, you would not have been lying all day in the jacuzzi, stirring pineapple? Well, maybe a day, two, and then…?
The goals that contribute to the achievement of P is here, I think you need to choose a profession and a life partner that you could provide you to all need (both in material and emotionally) to achieve a dream.
Anyone is suitable (I saw plans for one page that have achieved their goals and 48 sheets that turned out to be failure)
“Carrots” – things and objects that must be laid out on the steps leading up to the dream (I understand the pleasant events, as a vacation, cults, travel, etc.) ! It seems to me that an individual approach and a sense of proportion are important here.
And finally:
5 Rules of the “road” to the dream
– Choose your dreams carefully! They are able to come true!
– If the goal “took you away from your dream, think it may not be the right goal?!
– The plan is not a dogma, it can and should be changed!
– Do not confuse the “carrot” with the dream!
– “carrots” is good for those who love her, maybe you "orange" Need