Leni theme is one of the most relevant topics today. Adults suffer from laziness, and because of adults children. If an adult is lazy, then he will find a plausible justification for himself and others. But it is more difficult for children to be lazy.
Laziness is an extremely interesting, ambiguous and useful quality, if you learn how to deal with it correctly.
Probably, I will not become a great original if I note that laziness depends directly on our goals, desires, motives and values.
Let’s see how laziness is connected with the satisfaction of needs. We will do this with the help of a table in which we will evaluate our feelings when we get something or do not get, depending on our desire.
So, if we analyze the values of the table, some things become obvious. For convenience and a better understanding, we reduce the level of abstract with several examples. A child who wants a chocolate, but gets an apple will not be very pleased with this. T. To. He did not want an apple, he will give it to someone or lose it, and if he receives the chocolate remains very pleased. If he wants a chocolate and does not receive anything, he will feel deprived. And, if he does not want anything, then nothing can bring joy to him. If parents, for example, ask him to go to the store for chocolate, he will not go anywhere.
Or, for example, an employee. If he likes work and salary, he will be satisfied. If you do not like the work, and he goes to work only for the sake of salary, he will feel that he makes the employer a favor. If you like work, but does not suit the salary, it will feel deprived, and if you do not suit the work or salary, it will not go for such work at all. And, if it happens that life will “force” him to go there, he will experience great tension and resistance and, as a result, of course, to be lazy, to cope with his duties, to get tired quickly and often go to sick leave.
With regard to achieving goals, you can also draw certain parallels. When we get what we don’t want. Well, let’s say, an advertisement on TV or some acquaintance slammed you to buy some unnecessary thing. For example, another set of super knives. So he is dusting now new in the box, somewhere in the far corner of the closet, and from time to time thoughts come to whom to attach it for an anniversary. In the second sector it turns out when we do not get what we want, we feel deprived. For example, the guys have a dilemma, I like the girl, but because of fear of refusal it is difficult to talk to her. But does not speak-he feels deprived, as if something was missing. In both of these cases, we have weak motivation for actions and can be quite strong resistance.
And when we do not want and do not get something. There are no questions here and there is definitely laziness. And this is quite logical. Why spend energy and time on what we do not need, especially if it is also known that in any case we will not receive this. A classic example of this when a child does not want to do lessons. From the point of view of the child there is no sense in this. Usually making lessons he does not get any useful result for himself and no pleasure from the process. Unlike adults, children do not look far in the future, for them the phrase “next week” is an extremely abstract concept. Another question, if he promises a new smartphone, a computer, the same chocolate or make the learning process interesting for this for this.
But in fact, the topic of laziness is not as simple as it seems at first glance. The human being is extremely reasonable. We have not bad qualities, there are qualities with which we do not know how to do the right thing. Lena has their useful functions. No matter how paradoxical it sounds, but laziness is power. Power that has its own certain meaning, vector and its useful purpose. A person has subconscious protective mechanisms that include our consciousness and protect us from various dangerous situations. In particular, laziness protects from overloads, excessive responsibility, a possible dangerous situation. Laziness may indicate ill health, increased fatigue, when a person’s consciousness does not want to notice this, for example, due to fear of the authorities.
In addition, laziness is one of the powerful driving forces of human development. If we simulate the situation when we want something very much, but the path to the goal lies through a large amount of work, for example. It’s too lazy to do this work in conjunction with a great desire to get the final result and a creative approach can lead to original and very progressive solutions. Thus, laziness helps to look for new information, find new approaches and solve more and more difficult problems with lower resource costs. It was laziness that contributed to the transformation of printing machines into computers, the appearance of detergents, washing machines of all kinds of household and industrial equipment. After all, humanity would not have achieved today’s level of comfort if they had still operated with a scraper and a stone ax.
With proper treatment, laziness may be extremely useful and informative. First of all, forget the remnants of the Soviet past, where laziness was considered a crime against the party and the Fatherland, and treat laziness with respect. Try to understand what laziness is connected with. T. e. bring it to a conscious level. Next, examine what the resistance that it causes is associated with.
The reasons that caused laziness can be both real and the game of imagination. If the reasons are invented, then a simple awareness is enough and laziness will disappear. And, if there are real reasons to avoid something or not to do something, at least the situation will become clear, and it will be possible to make any constructive decision. If necessary, after awareness and work done with laziness, you can check it left or not. If you don’t stay, it is good, and if you stay, most likely you need to investigate to work on something else.